A few days ago I was inspired by someone’s idea to stop using the word should and replace it with the word could.
The first thing that came to my mind was “I should do the dishes” and after replacing it with “I could do the dishes” I realized that I actually had a choice. A choice which was surprisingly as motivating to actually get me to do them, as it was to give me an excuse to skip out until a more convenient time…
Sometimes we live our lives doing particular things because we should do them and sometimes we just feel guilty about all of the things we should do, but we can’t seem to find/make time for. I don’t know about you, but I always feel guilty when the dishes are piled high and I’m exhausted beyond belief and that lingering “should do the dishes” wont leave me alone. But maybe the problem isn’t the dishes, maybe the problem is the guilt. Maybe I am spending too much time thinking about all of the things I should have done, when the truth is, that if I turn the should into a could everything makes a lot more sense…because now it is a tangible choice: I could do the dishes (I really could). Do I want to right now, would now be the best time to do them? Or maybe I could not do the dishes, and instead play a game with my kids before they go to bed? Which one could I do right now and which one could I do later? My kids could help me do the dishes, my husband could wash the table or I could go play… I think it removes the guilt, removes the excuse and makes us choose.
I wonder if all my should’s is why I am so terrible at making choices?
Anyhow, I kind of like thinking in could’s not should’s…
I could weed the garden.
I could go to the grocery store.
I could play outside with the kids.
I could run through the sprinklers.
I could help someone in need.
I could smile.
I could make dinner.
I could do something spontaneous.
I could _________.