Pessimist Becoming Optimist


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I have been thinking a lot lately about positive affirmations…A LOT. I guess maybe it is because I used to be so used to thinking negative affirmations, that trying to fill my head with the positive ones takes so much concentration and effort that I have to constantly be focusing on it.

I must admit, that I used to think there were two kinds of people. The pessimistic kind, and the optimistic kind, and I really didn’t think that I had a choice. I was a pessimist, and well, the glass was always half empty. End story.

It is kind of crazy to me, the thought that a pessimist can choose to become an optimist. And that the challenge lies in our thoughts. In what we spend time thinking about. Sure, there are plenty of things to be negative about (believe me, I have spent  years pointing them out to myself) but the longer I have been trying to think only about the positive, the more I am beginning to realize how much their is to be positive about.

For me, my journey to becoming an optimist began with a break down. A big ol’ fat, I hate the world and I hate myself kind of break down. I was feeling picked on and sorry for myself and completely out of control. In a desperate attempt to help myself  I came across a book about thoughts. I bought it on the spot…and I really feel like it was an answer from heaven for me. The author recommends that we fill our minds with powerful optimistic thoughts. Things like: I am a Child of God, God will bless me abundantly, I am filled with peace, I am a good friend, I am valuable, I am full of faith etc.

Sometimes those words feel like lies. Sometimes the only things I think about myself are the negative ones…especially after I make any kind of mistake. Boy, Satan sure had me good. I had it all backwards.

According to Moroni “that which is of God inviteth and enticeth to do good continually; wherefore, everything which inviteth and enticeth to do good, and to love God, and to serve him, is inspired of God…but whatsoever thing persuadeth men to do evil, and believe not in Christ, and deny him, and serve not God, then ye may know with a perfect knowledge it is of the devil” (Moroni 7:13, 17)

Negative thinking about myself (and others) does not make me want to serve God. In fact it makes serving God seem impossible…because I will never be good enough. Negative thinking…all of it…is a big ol’ fat lie.

How come I never connected this scripture to the way I was thinking??? Thinking thoughts like “I am a mistake, I suck, I am a piece of s*** “(uh, yeah I might have thought that about myself a couple times…don’t tell) those are the lies. But it is NOT a lie that I am valuable. It is NOT a lie that God loves me unconditionally. It is NOT a lie that I am a child of God, or that I have the ability to love and be kind to others. satan wants me to think I am a nobody. But I am a somebody. And frankly he is terrified of my potential. Wasn’t it Moses who exclaimed to satan “Who art thou? For I am a son of God!” Thinking that way changes everything. We are children of God…and children of God should only think optimistic thoughts. They should only think truth.

If we are thinking bad things about ourselves we need to STOP! It is hard. I am still trying to do it. And maybe…maybe I will have to continue to try to do it for the rest of my life. But it is changing me. It is giving me hope. It is making me happy! Because the truth makes us happy.

Get a pad of sticky notes and write the truth all over them. Things like: My soul is precious, I accept myself deeply and completely right now, God loves me, I am happy, I enjoy my life, God blesses me abundantly, I am brave, I am kind, I am full of hope. Stick them up all over your house. Don’t mind what anybody else thinks. Read them. Say them. Shout them in satan’s face when he starts telling you lies. You may not believe the positive thoughts…yet…but say them anyway…and I promise you that you will come to believe them, because they are TRUE!

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” —Buddah

If we want to be happy, we need to think happy thoughts! You cannot be happy any other way. Determine to become an optimist. Scream it to the world. I am an optimist! And quicker than you would think you will begin to believe it, because it will be true.

I AM AN OPTIMIST! (I believe it now, I really do…and that is coming from a lifelong pessimist.)


  1. this makes me happy.


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  3. Have you ever read “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” ? I think you would like it too. I read it in high school and it really changed me then. I am reading it again and am reminded of so many truths about life and agency and the process of becoming.


  4. I loved reading this. I came across your blog on the MMB directory and I’m so glad I did. I’ve struggled with a lot of the same stuff and have found affirmations to be helpful… when I remember. Are you still using them? If so, how do you remind yourself to do it?
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  5. Yes. It’s important to be an optimist all the time.
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  6. I start every day of my life thinking about the great tnhigs worth waking up, and I admit: sometimes it is not easy, especially on Mondays (Ib4ve talked about this with my students, there is something about Mondays, we call it “Monday syndrome”) but then…. I remember all those inspiring conversations with my students, and there you go…. I am heading to my classes no matter what: the rain, the sun, the moon, the early morning hours or late evening ones…. I think I am lucky to be with my students, what else?!!


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